Video transcript
I want you to understand, there is no person who is not afraid of something, even the brave one is afraid of something. The purpose of this lesson is to let you look straight into the eyes of the fear associated with your addiction and see that, in fact, it does not exist in reality at all, but only in the imagination of the mind.
Okay, there are two types of fears. 1. Realistic, fear. The second is Imaginary fear, which comes from thoughts. So, what is real fear? In cases where there is a real danger to life people respond to real fear in one of the following three ways.
What is imaginary fear? Imaginary fear is an unrealistic perception of life. The imaginary fear can only exist when a person has a hard time dealing with the reality of his life, and he prefers to live in the imagination of the thoughts.
The imaginary fear survives from what has happened in the past and from thoughts about what might happen in the future. That fear is based on something that does not exist now in reality, and therefore it is 100% imaginary fear.
Imaginary fear causes intangible suffering that does not exist in reality, but only in the imagination and in thoughts. And thoughts are divided into two, one is memory and the other is imagination. In fact, both are considered imaginary thoughts because both do not exist right now.
The memory, which is in the subconscious mind, develops on our experiences from the past. And the image shows us the future to come. So, the basis for imaginary fear is only in the imagination.
Now let me tell you this. If you want to live in the reality of your life, there is no room for imaginary fear. Because what are you afraid of, what has already happened to you in the past, or what has not happened yet, in the future?
I want you to know that fear is not your enemy. In fact, he can be your best friend. After all, only a true friend tells the truth and fear brings you the truth straight to your face. Fear, also reflects what is important to you now.
All people share three types of imaginary fears. These fears prevent people from getting what they really want. In the case of addiction and rehab, the imaginary fears they face are:
Number 1. Fear of change – look, it's very convenient to stay in the same place and continue the addiction rather than the desire to change it.
Number 2. Fear of failure and rejection – that is a crippling fear that leads to a hesitation to act. When an addict tries several times to quit and fails, he has a fear that next time it will not work out either.
Number 3. Fear of social image – oh, what my friends, who are addicts like me, will say? They probably would not want to be my friends anymore because I am no longer addicted like them.
I repeat – these fears exist in all of us! For the most part, people do not change what they need to change because of the fear of doing something different and unfamiliar. There is also fear of failure, rejection, and fear from the social image.
If you had the courage to stop being afraid, you could conquer any imaginable goal.
To summarize this chapter, I have an important footnote. Despite what I taught you in this lesson. An addict who thinks about rehab feels real and paralyzing fear. Fear of not being happy.
In fact, behind every addiction lies the same fear, a fear that we are going to have negative feelings and thought. And happiness? Happiness is the purpose of life, it is joy, enthusiasm, calmness, and hope. It is the smile that is smeared on our faces, the laughter that vibration the heartbeat. Happiness is our security, peace of mind. Happiness is love.